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Grieving the Different Losses in Your Life - HealthyPlace
Russell Friedman, author of the Grief Recovery Handbook and Executive Director of the Grief Recovery Institute, joined us to discuss dealing with many different kinds of loss and grief, including losing a loved one through death or divorce, or the sadness one experiences from the loss of a pet or the loss of a stillborn baby. Mr. Friedman also talked about the pain associated with a loss, how to deal effectively with a loss and the sad or painful feelings that accompany a loss. Audience questions centered on the grieving process, whether to grieve alone, talking about your loss and grief with others, experiencing an emotional crisis from multiple losses and the concept of trying to move forward. David Roberts is the HealthyPlace.com moderator. The people in blue are audience members. David: Good Evening. I'm David Roberts. I'm the moderator for tonight's conference. I want to welcome everyone to HealthyPlace.com. Our topic tonight is "Grieving the Different Losses in Your Life." Our guest is Russell Friedman, author of the Grief Recovery Handbook and Executive Director of the Grief Recovery Institute. Good evening, Mr. Friedman and welcome to HealthyPlace.com. We appreciate you being our guest tonight. Before we get into the meat of the conference, can you please tell us a bit more about yourself and your expertise in this area? Russell Friedman: Yes, thanks for asking me onto the show. I had spent much of my life in the restaurant business. I arrived at the Grief Recovery Institute devastated by a second divorce and a bankruptcy. It was at the Institute that I learned to deal with my own pain and then to help others. David: When you talk about "loss and grief," you're not only addressing the topic of "death and dying," are you? (see: What Is Grief?) Russell Friedman: No, not at all. We identify at least 40 different life experiences which can produce the range of emotions called grief. Death is just one of the 40. David: And can you tell us 3 or 4 others, just so we can get a sense of what loss and grief encompass? Russell Friedman: Yes, divorce is a fairly obvious one, and so are major financial changes, where we would even use the word "loss," as in the loss of a fortune. Less obvious is MOVING, which changes everything we are familiar with. David: What have you discovered in people that makes it difficult for some to deal with the grieving process? Russell Friedman: The biggest culprit is the misinformation we have all learned since we were...
The grief of living a life different from what you imagined
It’s not talked about enough. The grief of letting go when all you want to do is hold on.The grief of moving forward even when you aren’t ready. The grief of acceptance when you feel full of denial. And the biggest one: the grief of living a life different from what you imagined.If you’re a person who feels everything deeply, you’ve likely recognized the disconnect when something painful happens. Sometimes it happens out of nowhere. And other times you find yourself more prepared for it. The times when you can feel it coming, yet every part of you still tries to resist it. Because it’s easier to hold on to what’s familiar than face the pain of not knowing what’s ahead.Change doesn’t wait until we’re ready, and that’s the paradox of it. We hold on even when we know we’re better off letting go. We’re convinced that if we wait long enough, everything will eventually go back to the way it was. We cling to the hope that it’ll turn out better than we anticipated, simply because we kept holding on, and that has to be worth something. And in some cases, we convince ourselves it’s worth everything.But what happens when life doesn’t turn out how we thought it would?When we’re forced to keep pushing through, because there isn’t another choice besides the one we don’t want to make?I once wrote in my journal how sometimes when we feel things coming to an end, it saves us from the pain when it actually does. I don’t find as much truth in that anymore. Because no matter how prepared we are, even when we try to visualize exactly how we’ll feel, we never truly know until we’re sitting in it. And that’s the grief of learning how to let go of expectations, of releasing a version that we always thought we’d be living. The grief between where you are and the place you thought you’d be feels unrecognizable. We let go more often than we notice, even in subtle ways. The friendships that start fading, even though you promised nothing would ever change no matter where life took you. But time and pain inevitably separate you, and you find yourself fighting with everything to hold on even when you know deep down it’s time to let go.You let go of versions of yourself. The ones you fought hard for and even the ones that kept you afloat when you were drowning. You even find another part of you accepting that it’s okay if you have to let go of a thousand versions of yourself to find the one you love the most.And that’s the part that gets brushed over. It isn’t just the grief of what we l...
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